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I have all girls. I’m a girl mom. I have a 5-year-old, a 3-year-old, and a 10-month-old. I know other girl moms that have only 1-3 girls. I know lots of boy moms too that have 1-3 boys and that’s all they’re ever going to have.
When I journey out in public with all three of my girls, people stare, people smile/smirk, and people ask questions.
It amazes me, sometimes, the questions that they do ask. These are 10 that make me cringe (and sometimes laugh).
#1 Are you going to try for a boy?
We only have girls so surely we want and are going to try for a boy, right?
My husband and I always talked about having three kids. We have three. We have three girls. I’m done. Unless God has a different plan (and sometimes he does), we are not trying for a boy.
I asked my husband the other day if he would ever consider adoption.
His response, “Adopting what?”
I said a child.
He said, “I think we have enough kids.”
Touche, hubs. Touche.
#2 Do you have a lot of pink in your house?
Why, yes, we do have a lot of pink stuff in our house, including two bedrooms that are painted pink. My girls do love pink, but they also love blue and purple and yellow and orange…
When Kate draws, she often draws with rainbow colors, so all colors are represented equally in our home 🙂
#3 Do girls run in your family?
I’m not much of a runner myself but my husband runs (He is in the Army). 🙂
I have a huge extended family and it is quite a mix of boys and girls. My husband’s family is much smaller but it is still a mix of both boys and girls, so no, girls don’t run in our family any more than boys do.
#4 Are you disappointed none of them are boys?
Uh, they are human beings and blessings — each and every one of them. Honestly, before I became a mom, I wanted to have five boys (yes, you read that right). It’s probably why I wound up with all girls 🙂
I had a miscarriage between my second and third daughter and a piece of me wonders if that was a boy or a girl. I don’t wish any of the girls I have were boys, though.
These are the blessings I am supposed to have and these are the girls that I am supposed to raise.
#5 Is your husband disappointed he doesn’t/won’t have any boys to play/watch sports with him?
This question is typically followed by the statement, “He must be disappointed.”
NEWSFLASH: Girls/women like to play and watch sports, too!
I am not athletic but I do enjoy watching hockey and college football (Go Noles!) — although it was hard for me to watch my college football team this season.
My husband, on the other hand, is athletic. He played baseball and wrestled in high school. He played and still plays hockey now.
Our two older girls love sports. They watch hockey and football with us. Both also play sports. One is definitely a little more athletic at this point but both are active participants.
The baby just rolls a ball around and laughs right now 🙂 The verdict is still out on her.
#6 Does your husband hate being the only guy in the house?
It is true that he is the only guy in the house. Even the dog and our new kitten that is coming home next week are girls.
We actually joke about this when people ask. We say, “Even the dog is a girl!” Soon, we’ll have to say, “Even the dog and kitten are girls!”
He’s not upset now, but when the non-furry girls start to date, he probably will be.
#7 You know you have to pay for all THREE weddings, right?
This one really makes me chuckle. In my former single life living in Miami, I was a wedding planner.
According to “etiquette,” yes, we are responsible for paying for all three weddings but pump the brakes. They are 5, 3, and 10 months. I think we have some time to save up our pennies for their weddings.
AND, who knows if all three will marry or want a big wedding or pay for their own wedding.
It’s too soon to tell.
#8 Did you cry when you found out the sex of the last one?
The truth is that my third is my rainbow baby. I cried when I heard her heartbeat for the first time. I did not cry when I found out she was a girl. We actually laughed knowing that we were going to have three girls.
We also knew that this is our last baby — that we’re not going to have any more kids so we knew three girls is what we get!
All three of our girls are answered prayers. I know that sounds cliche but I met my husband and had all three of my girls later in life (38, 39, and 42). I always wanted to marry and have kids so when I actually got to do all of that, the last thing I did was cry (except for maybe some tears of joy).
#9 Did you do things to try to have a boy? You know there are things you can do to try for a boy, right?
This one always renders me speechless (and it’s hard to render me speechless).
I think it’s because I’m truly unsure about how to answer this question. Do they actually want to know how my husband and I get busy in the bedroom?
Probably not, right?
#10 Do you know how lucky you are?
This question is usually not from the same people who ask some of these other contradictory questions.
The answer to this one is yes, we do.
My husband and I both always wanted kids. Now, we have three beautiful, smart, funny, and kind people — yes, people. They happen to be girls and that’s not what’s important.
What is important is the kind of people they are now and the kind of people they turn out to be.
Have you read the book, “This is how it always is?” It’s an interesting book because it’s about a family with five boys and the youngest is transgender. It’s about how they deal with helping their son to feel comfortable in his own body as a girl.
My point is that I don’t see them as boys or girls. These are my children. These are people that will do great things for this world. These are human beings.
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